Removing Sleep Obstacles ≠ Creating Sleep Capacity (Vault 5-Part Sleep Clarity Series: Part 3)

Removing Sleep Obstacles ≠ Creating Sleep Capacity

I had a 5,000-step sleep ritual. My friend just… went to bed. Here’s the “aha moment” I learned from him:

A few years ago, I was describing my pre-bed routine to a (longevity-focused) friend.

At this point, I’d managed to improve my sleep from 6-7 bad nights a week down to 4-5, but I’d hit a plateau. And for years, I was stuck there.

As I detailed my complex, multi-step process—a fortress of sleep hygiene, environmental controls, and optimization—we joked that it must have 5,000 steps. (ok, it was closer to 50, but it felt like 5,000).

Then my friend described his “Person B” sleep—how he just gets tired, falls asleep easily, and sleeps like a baby every night. He just said, “Wow. That’s a lot. I just… get tired and go to bed.”

His reaction was a huge aha moment for me (& an incredible source of inspiration).

It got me thinking. All the effort, all the discipline… the mind racing at 3am, while his sleep just worked.

It made me realize something must be fundamentally wrong in my approach.

And, if it took 50 steps to move from 7 bad nights to 5, then what—150 steps to reach perfect sleep? That also didn’t make sense for something so evolutionarily foundational as sleep.

My 5,000-step routine was the ultimate case of “treating” my sleep problems.

This is the lens I was missing all those years, and it’s the answer to the question from last time: How do you tell Treating from Solving?

• Treating = External: This is the “sleep hygiene” industry. It’s about controlling your environment: blue light, room temperature, mattresses. These are all fixes you apply from the outside. They remove what is preventing sleep, but they don’t build sleep.
• Solving = Internal: This is what my friend had naturally. It’s about your body’s physiology. It’s about the chemical and neural signals inside your body that create the state of sleep and keep you there.

Takeaway 1: Removing External Sleep Obstacles ≠ Creating Internal Sleep Capacity

Here’s the 1st takeaway I want you to have for Part 3 of The Vault Sleep Clarity Series:

Removing an external thing that disrupts sleep is not the same as your body having the internal resources to create sleep.

• Evening blue light. We know blue light exposure affects melatonin release. But removing blue light won’t help you if your body doesn’t have what it needs to produce melatonin in the first place.
• Caffeine cutoff: Stopping caffeine early (or no caffeine) removes adenosine interference, but doesn’t create adenosine production capacity
• Noise elimination: White noise masks external sound, but doesn’t resolve the heightened stress sensitivity that wakes you to begin with
• Cooling mattress: A cooling mattress can’t address cortisol dysregulation that’s affecting your core temperature at 2am (midlife testosterone & estrogen changes → stress sensitivity → temperature regulation issues)

You can’t solve an internal signaling problem with an external gadget, just as you can’t solve back pain by wearing a back brace or by just not sitting.

“But I’ve Tried ‘Internal’ Things, I Take Magnesium…”

….5-HTP, melatonin, glycine, and a dozen other supplements. Isn’t that ‘Internal Solving?'”

This is probably what you’re thinking right now.

You’re smart to ask. I asked the same thing. I was taking all of them—and still getting “sometimes, somewhat, a little” results.

Here’s one of answers I was missing.

Even in my 20-year health journey, for years I was missing a key “Internal” factor: the mineral, selenium.

Everyone knows about magnesium for sleep, but fewer realize selenium is required for converting our thyroid hormones. If that pathway isn’t working, our body’s signaling and energy system can be compromised.

And even fewer realize it’s also involved in supporting reproductive hormones and regulating the body’s anti-inflammatory responses—all “Internal” processes that are foundational for sleep.

Yet, how often do we hear, “you need selenium for sleep?”

Takeaway 2: “Precise Comprehensiveness.”

Here’s the second takeaway I want you to have today — Sleep solving requires the right combination of sleep solvers (for you and you only).

So, even within Internal sleep solvers, “precise comprehensiveness” is what’s required.

Broad supports like magnesium might be necessary—but certainly not sufficient.

So, the solution is:

• Not just magnesium.
• Not just selenium.
• But solving for the part(s) of your sleep system that need resources in your particular situation.

Today’s win:

You now see the difference between treating and solving sleep.

You also realize you don’t need 10 sleep treatments.

You don’t even need 10 sleep solvers.

You need the 5 sleep solvers that are right for you.

Now, you might already be thinking, Kat, I take a multi-vitamin every day….don’t I have all my solvers covered?

It turns out the internal world isn’t just supplements, minerals or compounds.

It’s a 2-part system.

Next time, I’ll show you that 2-part system.

P.S. The ‘Internal’ world is complex, and hormones are a core part of the sleep signaling system in midlife and beyond.

If you’re reading this and thinking, “I’m pretty sure hormones are a big piece of my puzzle,” this is why I created the SleepOS Hormones digital program. It’s built to help you support those pathways with “precise comprehensiveness.” You can learn more about it here.